I was at Sams Club a few weeks ago when I started talking with this lady. We talked about having kids and being a SAHM. She told me about this program called Mothers Morning Out where you take your little in the morning, duh, and have about four hours to do anything you want before you go pick them up.
Well, Thursday I had headshots for the pageant program and I desperately needed to get my hair and makeup done because it I am completely inept at doing my own hair and makeup for photos is different than everyday application.
So I took Clare.
She’s been to day care during our MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) meetings and done fine so I thought she’d be fine.
She started crying before I even left. I sat down with her and tried to distract her with toys and the other kids (a little boy came up to her and gave her a kiss!) all to no avail. Finally, the organizer lady sat her down in her lap and started playing with a xylophone. She was fine so I left. Okay, I snuck out of there like a drug dealer leaving Mexico. But I got out.
Long story short, I got a few texts saying she wasn’t doing great but then she fell asleep and when she woke up she played a little bit, still wasn’t super happy but she was fine enough. So I went and got my hair and makeup done. All the while feeling like the worst mommy in the whole wide world. But knowing intellectually that it was good for her to see mommy leave and come back and it was good for me to get away for a little bit.
Having a mental illness and being a mom means that self-care is crucial to being my lovely, amazing self, ahem 🙂 I always say that if I don’t take care of myself I won’t be fit to take care of anybody else. And, afterall, Clare deserves me at my best.
The NAMI (National Alliance for Mental Illness) website states that “any amount of time you take for yourself is important. It can help keep you from being consumed by your responsibilities.”
So I practice self-care by giving myself permission to do other things than take care of Clare sometimes. I get up at 6, even though Clare doesn’t wake up until 8, to get ready for the day, write my blog, or exercise (or I intend to exercise and then get distracted with other things lol).
Self-care is sooo important for all of us. Post a comment and let me know what you do for self-care.