As a mom I find myself making comparisons a lot. This mom does this, this mom does that. This baby is doing this and this baby is doing that. I compare myself against other moms and other women in general. Part of this is low self-esteem and part of it is just human nature. We all know it’s not healthy but it’s a hard habit to break.
Right now, with the pageant looming, I find myself comparing myself to other women competing. I know it’s bad and I try not to but it’s difficult not to. I see them doing events and doing things with their platforms and I’m in awe. How do they find the time to do so much? Is it because their kids are older or are they just better at time management than I am? I don’t have the answers and I keep feeling like I’m not stacking up which makes me depressed and overwhelmed and then I don’t do the things I need to do to make my platform stand out and get myself ready for this pageant. I feel like it is hopeless because, in my mind, I won’t and can’t ever compare to these amazing women.
Writing this is super hard because I know that some of those women read my blog and I don’t want them to know how I feel. Hell, I don’t want anyone to know I feel like this. It’s incredibly embarrassing. But those women have also supported me when I’ve been doing platform work and I’ve supported them. We cheer each other on. That’s one of the things I love about this pageant system. The women don’t compete against each other, in the traditional sense of the word, we compete against ourselves. We hold each other up and help when we can and pray for each other and just love.
What I have to remember is that, no, I can’t compare to these women but they can’t compare to me either. Simply because they are different than me. They have different strengths than I do but that doesn’t make my strengths any weaker. It just makes them different.
“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live it’s whole life believing it is stupid.” – Albert Einstein.
I can only compare myself to who I was yesterday or who I was a year ago. Same for them. Am I better than I was then? Am I stronger, healthier, happier than yesterday? I sure hope so.
Comparing myself to them won’t help me better myself and it won’t help me win. I can’t focus on their progress because then I lose sight of my own. Sometimes I forget this. But then I have amazing people in my life who remind me. You know who you are.
So to prepare for this pageant and life in general, all I need to do is make sure I am bettering myself one day at a time. I have to use each day to make sure I do more, or be more than I was the day before. I have to try harder than I did yesterday with just one small thing. And that one small thing will change me.
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